Let fetch_ref pull from Gitaly instead of from disk

What does this MR do?

Adds a feature flag to let Gitlab::Git::Repository#fetch_ref pull from Gitaly instead of from disk.

I found a 'creative' use of fetch_ref that would get much less efficient because of this (it was fetching from the repo into itself) so I refactored some code to be able to remove that one call site of fetch_ref.

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Why was this MR needed?

Gitaly all the things.

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Does this MR meet the acceptance criteria?

• Changelog entry added, if necessary
• Documentation created/updated
• API support added
• Tests added for this feature/bug
• Review
  • Has been reviewed by UX
  • Has been reviewed by Frontend
  • Has been reviewed by Backend
  • Has been reviewed by Database
• Conform by the merge request performance guides
• Conform by the style guides
• Squashed related commits together

What are the relevant issue numbers?

Closes https://gitlab.com/gitlab-org/gitaly/issues/585