build: warn about `--without-ssl` disabling debugger

• To fix #12758 (closed), added an assertion that if --without-ssl or --without-intl are set, --without-debugger must also be explicitly set.

• Added --without-debugger is an alias to --without-inspector, since we removed the old TCP debug protocol the V8 inspect protocol is the only debugger available. Hence disabling inspector means disabling any kind on JS debugger.

Depends on: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/12197 Fixes: https://github.com/nodejs/node/issues/12758

Checklist

• make -j4 test (UNIX), or vcbuild test (Windows) passes
• documentation is changed or added
• commit message follows commit guidelines

Affected core subsystem(s)

build, tools, inspector, debugger