test: try to fix test-cli-node-options

• partitioning the sub-process groups
• use -e instead of module
• reduce maxBuffer

Fixes: https://github.com/nodejs/node/issues/14191

Checklist

• make -j4 test (UNIX), or vcbuild test (Windows) passes
• tests and/or benchmarks are included
• commit message follows commit guidelines

Affected core subsystem(s)

test,process,cli