assert: .throws accept objects

From now on it is possible to use a validation object in throws instead of the other possibilities.

Refs #17557

I personally am not sure if this is a cool thing or not but I thought I just put something together to get some votes.

CI https://ci.nodejs.org/job/node-test-pull-request/12016/

Checklist

• make -j4 test (UNIX), or vcbuild test (Windows) passes
• tests and/or benchmarks are included
• documentation is changed or added
• commit message follows commit guidelines

Affected core subsystem(s)

assert