stream: check type and range of highWaterMark

Continuation of https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/13065.

Stream constructors should throw when an invalid highWaterMark option is given.

Checklist

• make -j4 test (UNIX), or vcbuild test (Windows) passes
• tests and/or benchmarks are included
• documentation is changed or added
• commit message follows commit guidelines

Affected core subsystem(s)

stream