[v9.x backport] backport defaultTriggerAsyncIdScope changes

• async_hooks: update defaultTriggerAsyncIdScope for perf: #18004
• async_hooks,http: set HTTPParser trigger to socket: #18003
• async_hooks,test: only use IPv6 in http test: #18143

Checklist

• make -j4 test (UNIX), or vcbuild test (Windows) passes
• tests and/or benchmarks are included
• commit message follows commit guidelines

Affected core subsystem(s)

async_hooks