deps: get new v8 building for ARM64 Windows

This should be rebased and merged after https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/25852 is merged. It backports two fixes and works around another issue fixed in upstream v8.

Checklist

• make -j4 test (UNIX), or vcbuild test (Windows) passes
  • depends on other PRs; see https://github.com/nodejs/node/issues/25998
• tests and/or benchmarks are included
  • existing tests don't need porting
• commit message follows commit guidelines