[v10.x backport] Update openssl1.1.1a

Backport openssl 1.1.1a related PRs. They depend on each other, so I am including in one PR:

• https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/24676 (backport of https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/24405)
• https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/24759
• https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/25381

Checklist

• make -j4 test (UNIX), or vcbuild test (Windows) passes
• tests and/or benchmarks are included
• documentation is changed or added
• commit message follows commit guidelines