worker: make transfer list behave like web MessagePort

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Allow generic iterables as transfer list arguments, as well as an options object with a transfer option, for web compatibility.

Refs: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/28033#discussion_r289964991

Checklist

• make -j4 test (UNIX), or vcbuild test (Windows) passes
• tests and/or benchmarks are included
• commit message follows commit guidelines