src: cleanup unused headers

Node codebase has evolved a lot in the more than 10 years of its existence. As more features (and code) have been added, changed, removed, it's sometimes hard to keep track of what gets used and what not.

This commits attempts to clean some of those potentially left-over headers using suggestions from include-what-you-use

Refs: #27531 (closed)

• make -j4 test (UNIX)
• commit message follows commit guidelines

In addition, also tested with make -j8 make -j8 test-all