quic: part 1... quic-modified openssl

This is one of three separate PRs that would need to be landed together. They have been split to allow easier reviewing. This PR covers the Openssl modifications necessary to support the QUIC implementation.

NOTE: This PR merges into the master branch

The other two PRs in this batch are:

• ngtcp2 and nghttp3: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/32378
• quic implementation: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/32379

Checklist

• make -j4 test (UNIX), or vcbuild test (Windows) passes
• commit message follows commit guidelines