net: add ability to reset a tcp socket

make it possible to forcibly rest a tcp socket:

• add a new method Socket.prototype.resetAndDestroy

• add a new private method Socket.prototype._reset

• add a new flag resetAndClosing to make _destroy calls the _reset instead of close while destroying a Socket.

• add new methods TCPWrap::Reset to be a wrap of uv_tcp_close_reset

• change HandleWrap::state_ from private to protected. This is essential for keeping the same behaviour between TCPWrap::Reset and HandleWrap::Close

• add test cases for the new method

Fixes: https://github.com/nodejs/node/issues/27428