[v20.x backport] backport multiple test runner related prs

Backports:

Backported	Original Landed at	PR	Original landed commit
	Jul 26	- https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/48787	bcaf1989
	Jul 24	- https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/48877	a0f3ed8a
	Jul 31	- https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/48915	7a33f2b8
	Aug 1	- https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/48925	88094bba
	Aug 2	- https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/48913	c58e8fc3
	Aug 3	- https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/48989	1353681e
	Aug 11	- https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/48975	4e61c226
	Aug 14	- https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/49116	b5740756

Notes:

1. Created 1 PR for all those commits as suggested by @RafaelGSS
2. after each commit I run some tests that are relevant and made sure they are passing: a. test-runner-cli.js b. test-runner-output.mjs c. test-runner-run.mjs
3. The order of the rows is the same order as I cherry-picked
4. I added bcaf1989 before a0f3ed8a even though in real life a0f3ed8a was added before bcaf1989 because of failing tests that were added in a0f3ed8a that match the test pattern that was used in test-runner-cli.js test (this is the whole reason of creating #48787 in the first place