net: fix connect crash when call destroy in lookup handler
requested to merge github/fork/theanarkh/fix_connect_crash_when_call_destroy_in_lookup_handler into main
fix: https://github.com/nodejs/node/issues/50841
cc @ShogunPanda
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make -j4 test(UNIX), orvcbuild test(Windows) passes -
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