test_runner: support module detection in module mocks

• Resolves #53634 (closed).

The tests in test-runner-module-mocking.js fail when module detection is enabled; you can see by running the following on current main:

./node --experimental-test-module-mocks --experimental-require-module --experimental-detect-module \
./test/parallel/test-runner-module-mocking.js

(The first two flags are present already at the top of test-runner-module-mocking.js.)

I think that this means that the test runner module mocking feature is already broken for anyone trying to use it along with --experimental-detect-module; and of course this becomes all the more urgent to fix as we hopefully unflag --experimental-detect-module (https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/53619).

The issue stems from the module mocking using resolution to determine the format to use for what kind of source to generate for the mock, CommonJS or ESM. The format property returned from the resolve hook is optional, so this approach is an unsafe one; it breaks not only when detection is enabled, but also if the user registers a custom resolve hook that doesn’t return a format property.

I’ve updated the logic to instead use the format property returned by the next load hook in the chain, which is usually Node’s internal defaultLoad. The format property is required to be returned from load hooks, so this should be a safe approach. The only potential complication is that this requires the module to be mocked to actually exist on disk, so that nextLoad succeeds; it’s unclear to me whether this was an expected requirement previously. (There were no tests for mocking nonexistent modules.) I think it should be acceptable, because generally users would be mocking existing things? If mocking nonexistent modules is a requirement, we will need to take another approach or add a fallback approach for that condition.

cc @cjihrig @nodejs/test_runner