Optimize system note visibility checking by hiding notes that

have been fully redacted and contain cross-project references.

The previous implementation relied on Note#cross_reference_not_visible_for?,
which essentially tries to render all the Markdown references in a system note
and only displays the note if the user can see the referring project. But this
duplicated the work that Banzai::NotesRenderer was doing already. Instead, for
each note we render, we memoize the number of visible user references and
use it later if it is available.

Improves #19273